Woe is Me

And so my thirtieth birthday has passed by, and with the beauty of hindsight, I can tell you that it really was not that bad. It is important for me to keep you updated on the fact that I had a whole week of feeling special and loved, because my last blog on the subject was rather negative. Also, everybody just loves a boaster. I am a boaster.

After I expressed my distaste for my birthday and said how it reminded me that I was going to die and miss out on a future, I received a comment on my blog telling me that I should stop with the ‘woe is me’ comments.That was not the opening comment, oh no, I was profoundly told that my life is what I choose it to be and in order to fight myeloma, I had to ‘start with a decision to do something’. The gifts just kept on coming, and I was advised to not feel sorry for myself, and to achieve this, I should live my life by being active. By ‘active’, the suggestion was that I could ‘walk, run or bike’. It concluded, inspiring creators of memes everywhere, by saying a ‘death sentence’ means that I have time to ‘live before X day’. And so, I was ordered to ‘live it’. Exclamation mark.

Inspired, enlightened and motivated by the kind guidance a lesser person would consider a sales pitch, I decided to avoid my blog for a few weeks to allow myself the chance to ‘live’. I mean really live. I have after all, spent every day of the last two years in a self indulgent, wallowing pit of despair, not affording myself the opportunity to really live. The advice, both insightful and medically responsible, came with a slogan of ‘Nutrition + Fitness = Health’. POW and WOW.

I acknowledge that my last blog about turning 30, was not something one would read to a four year old as a bedtime story. It was angry and pessimistic. It was also needed. They were the thoughts I had in the lead up to my birthday, and I needed to voice them by writing them down and then dumping them into the internet ether. It is how I manage all my negative thoughts and it then allows me to see the positive. After I pressed publish on the morning of the 24 May, do you know how many other times I have entertained thoughts about my premature death and never born children? Not once. Not at all. Not even. Those thoughts are hopefully not to be seen again until the 17 May 2015. With the thoughts banished, I was able to just enjoy the things I used to love about my birthday. Enjoy it I did, and it lasted for 9 whole days.

‘Living’ is grand. I spent the afternoon of 24th May until the afternoon of 27th in Berlin. There, in lands all so foreign, I was able to do my best impression of a middle aged American tourist whilst the people I travelled with did their best impression of something else entirely. My eyes, once again, were able to see things they have never seen before. I relish that, more than jogging. As much as my innate pessimism loathes me to say it, I had fun. Boy, did I walk straight into ‘living’.

Inevitably, in the immediate days after my return, I required rest. I rested because I felt sorry for myself and not because it is an essential part of my ability to function. I was tempted to go on a bike ride, but I have been limited to four five minutes walks a day by the people who are medically trained, so I chose sleep instead. The rest days also involved some working, because I am hell bent on giving up and I only need money to fund my Netflix account.

Sandwiched in between the birthday fun times, was a doctor’s appointment and a dose of Velcade. Velcade as you all know, has such positive side effects, that any one intent on giving up on life, will benefit from intense neuropathy, fatigue and nausea. I do not go every other Friday to have a dose of Velcade and feel this way, because it will buy more more time until X day.

In the days after my rest time, I was treated to a myriad of gifts and fun and love. I had a good turn out for my birthday drinks, which was probably just the way in which my friends decided to tell me that I needed to ‘live’ more. I felt spoilt and put it simply, I loved it because I love me. There is nothing better at making one feel wanted in the world, than positive attention. Lots and lots of positive attention.