You find, when people read what you write, you sometimes strike a nerve. You’ve offered an inspiration without ever planning to do so. In my opinion, the best restaurants, coffee shops or even books, are those where the principle knows who they are, what they want and just do it, regardless of what you think. When it comes from the heart, it strikes true and to the point. Luckily I’ve had a few posts that have gotten that sort of reaction. If I was writing a novel then I’d be pleased and hope that it would become viral. But I’m writing about cancer and that sucks. If I can write something that helps someone else with cancer address their fear, that’s great – but it still sucks, I mean it’s still cancer. If I can do something to help inspire someone to do something or raise money, that’s great – but it still sucks because it’s cancer. Cancer sucks, the treatment is miserable, the disease is miserable and the feelings you have to deal with are miserable. When you put yourself out there, in the public eye, you sign on for something that, in its own way, is miserable.
I was diagnosed in 2008, harvested my stem cells in 2010, had a stem cell transplant in 2013 and am now two years in full remission – no sign of the culprit. I’ve had four rounds of chemo that didn’t make me vomit or lose tons of weight. I met my evil foe Steroid: gained weight, almost kicked the cat and did yell at a client. I had 36 cycles of Revlimid and all the itchy redness and monthly phone call to prove (via a phone prompt service) that I’m having sex with a woman that has a womb but I am using a latex condom while not sharing or chewing my Revlimid. I can make fun of these things as I, in my eyes, have had it extremely easy, a pleasure cruise of sorts, compared to the Gilligan’s Island charter some friends of mine have been through. At my one year anniversary I ran (walked) up the Empire State Building to raise money for the Multiple Myeloma Research Foundation (The MMRF). I did my “daily stairs”, dedicating my daily training for the Run Up to a different patient with Multiple Myeloma. My first fund raiser, which occurred a year earlier and just one week prior to my entering hospital for my transplant, took its queue from the fact I would soon be losing my hair. I was “Promoting Global Hair Loss” and had friends all over the world host an event, shearing their heads to raise money for The MMRF. As I explained to a friend today, that event was about me, my friends, people that knew me directly or within one degree of separation, up until the last two weeks, when I first started hearing from actual patients and caregivers.
But the ESBRU event, one year after my transplant, started out with patients, people with the disease, going through what I went through and, in many cases, much worse. At first, it was patients that had some familial link back to me but within weeks there were people that were reaching out to me that I never knew but they shared their story. When you start collecting those stories they come with a price. It’s like that litter of stray kittens, if you name them you’re really screwed. The minute you start connecting you’ve already gone too far – there’s no going back.
Out of the pack of 300 odd people running the ESBRU race, I was in the elevator, after the race, with a lady and asked her why she was running. Turns out her sister had asked her to look for me as we, her sister and I, had already been talking about why she was running! I believe her family member was one of my daily stairs dedications. I did my daily stairs for 20+ people, dedicating with a little sign I drew and posted on Facebook and Twitter, but I ran the race for three gentlemen that were going through their stem cell transplant shortly after I had finished mine. These were the boys I was running ESBRU for – as Amy Freeze was kind enough to capture in her interview, I was doing this for them because I could – and they couldn’t.
These were the three that I ran (walked) my race for the evening of ESBRU. As I mentioned before, I did it because I could, and they couldn’t. One year post transplant, Bob and Steve were back on meds and Andy was in for another transplant. Here I was getting all the glory and running (walking) up the Empire State Building. At my speech that night I mentioned them, a bit choked, as it really did seem strange that I was doing all this whey they were going through “all that!”
If everybody got diagnosed, and everybody went through four rounds of chemo, and everybody had 36 cycles of Revlimid and everybody had a stem cell transplant and then everybody ran (walked) the Empire State Building then it really would be just a matter or paying your dues. But that’s not how it works, because cancer sucks. Two years post transplant I am as close to back to normal as you can be. I’ve not posted anything on my blog since September because I’ve not really had anything to say. I’m not really on any meds of significance but I promise I’ll have a really miserable time during the MRI I get in May; otherwise I’m back to normal life stuff.
Andy however has been through a second Auto (his own) SCT and then an Allo (someone else who’s a match) SCT.
Bob is doing OK and we’re keeping fingers crossed he’ll stay that way but I will say I’ll be wearing the shamrock, not the rose this weekend but I will reach out to Bob to help him drown his sorrows when England loses to Ireland.
Steve – well, that’s a different matter.
Steve passed away this week.
Cancer sucks. I don’t have anything in my cancer agenda currently, no ESBRU or head shaving planned but I know I will do something. Why? Because I can and because I owe it to Steve, and Andy and Bob and Brad and Cynthia and Nancy and Jimmy and Matt and Shells and Deb and everyone else out there fighting this stupid disease.
The MMRF has revolutionized cancer research. To their credit, they’ve reduced the number of years it will take to find a cure by an exponential value as they’ve embraced transparency and collaboration and reduced the time to market by incredible amounts. That said, there’s still no end in sight and I have a disease that is incurable. I thank my lucky stars that the version of the disease I have has allowed me to lead a normal life, raise my kids and to help influence and inspire so many people. But please realize when I say it – Steve is the hero here, as is Andy, Bob, Brad, Jimmy and a slew of others that are really battling this disease now. At some point I may be in that position and I hope there will be a patient standard bearer then on my behalf. Until then, I’m happy to be the one that gets up in your face and says, “I have a form of cancer called Multiple Myeloma”.
If I can do something to help cure this miserable disease then I’m all for it! We need a cure for this, and the many other kinds of cancer out there. What can you do? First – be selfish – eat right, do some sort of exercise, go to the doctor. Put yourself in a position of minimal risk. Your body, after all, is a temple!
Fourth, give yourself a pat on the back for reading my rant! I appreciate the time and the effort to follow my misguided train of thought. I throw my comments out there when it comes to mind. I’ve had a few “stray cat” moments, Steve is the most recent one and it reminds me I’ve made a commitment. I’m not promising more frequent posts but hopefully what I’ve written has been of interest and helps you understand! Now I have to figure out the title of this post.