rejoice…mourn

“Rejoice with those who rejoice, mourn with those who mourn.” Romans 12:15

It is indeed an interesting phenomena. The blogging community has connected me with people from many corners of the world but much more it has linked me to a very supportive and sensitive myeloma community.

Recently, I have been dwelling on this verse.  As I reflect on it, these are my thoughts. It is in this myeloma community, where I sense a personal closeness, where we share a similar journey that I find this Bible verse to be also true.

The joy we have for another mm-er with good and successful outcome, is palpable. It is real, genuine and quite sincere although we may not know or meet the other. It is almost as if their good news mean more possible good outcomes for all. So therefore the shared joy. And why not. Even for those with a poor prognosis, they too unselfishly convey their happiness and good wishes.

Mourn, we do it too. The death of our fellow mm-ers brings that momentary grief and for some, even tears. We are saddened with the loss of one of us and we are yet again reminded of our impending mortality. Sure we are grateful for the targeted therapies, SCTs and the many enhanced variations with numerous clinical trials, which have extended the timelines for many of us. But there will come that day when it is our time to bid farewell.  For those of us given extended time and further extended time, let us not waste it but make the days count and live it well with gladness in our hearts. Not that every day can truly be happy because pain can be debilitating but on the “good” days when we can, we stay grateful and joyful.

There will be days of mourning. The battle has to have an end. Let us try to make it a “pleasant” journey when we can and if at all possible. Someone wrote that – thank GOD, he was not suddenly taken away in an accident or a heart attack, with myeloma he still has time to be with his family, however short or long. He has time to bid farewell, time to hug that someone/everyone, time to make peace, time to get his house in order …etc.

Recently, we bade farewell to a few in the myeloma community, actually too many and too soon, and some still so young.
I am especially saddened to read of Paula K’s passing. She had been going in and out of hospital (she called it the hotel – the Royal) so frequently, her kidney needed dialysis, had fainting spells, myeloma was found in her spinal fluid, infections … such endless troubles and complications …. yet she courageously battled on. And she was courageously funny as she blogged about her days. She was trying to make it a “pleasant” journey even for her readers. She gave cheer to many of us, mm-ers. Paula, you will be missed.