Oh how life changes us….
To Be Continued, as Jim (with Chris) is struggling stand up right now…
Yes, I was planning to write about so many things. I always have so many topics I want to share with you. I begin several posts before I post, but I rarely post the posts I begin or write in my head….
Here’s a part of what I was going to write:
I pulled into Kaiser for my labs and “pulled myself together” psychologically. I am a master of disguises, always “faking it til I make it”. I don’t want to be “weepy” wherever I go. I have been, but don’t want to be. It’s just not me. I am not afraid of my emotions. Not afraid of people knowing me and my feelings. I just don’t want to be sad. It’s so sweet how I am always greeted personally by the kind, caring check in staff. They know me. I am their “regular Sunday labs gal”. Been doing WEEKLY blood tests since Kyprolis, Darzalex, now Velcade! Wow, since Fall 2015! Just something as “small” as this identity recognition warms my heart and boosts my spirits. See Julie, you really are not Alone in this crazy, continuing cancer battle.
I’m also greeted with recognition and smiles by the Phlebotomy team that knows me too well. We chat about our mutual lives. Sometimes there are others in the lab, thankfully often not, as I try to time it when Sunday night Urgent Care is not busy. Our conversation often includes amazement of my ongoing chemo, treatment, incurable cancer situation. Everyone is always incredulous I am as “ok” as I am, look as “good” as I do, and am as “positive” and “upbeat” as I am. That’s just me. I don’t want to be sad. I don’t want to be weepy. I don’t want to be dragged down by all this illness awfulness. It’s not who I am. My spirits are renewed. Just simple acts of recognition, familiarity, kindness and understanding renew me, and remind me of who I used to be.
I leave the Lab for the Pharmacy just steps away to pick up my Rx for weekly Cytoxan. My phone rings. It’s my son Scott and his fiance Ashley, on the way home from a trip. Crazy timing, as they are Right There, on the freeway, almost passing where I am. Unbelievable timing… or is it. They are right there. I let them know where I am. We’re all shocked at the “coincidence”… at how location-close we all are. Right there, at the Same time! They were thinking about stopping at In n Out. I hadn’t eaten much yet, and was planning to go home eat. They’re Right There. I’m Right There. The timing is incredible… We decide to meet up at In n Out. They’re amazed I’ll go lol. I tell them how sad I had been. How “alone” I had been feeling. The timing was crazy. Meant to Be. How could I not meet up! They’re sad I was so sad. I reassured them it had nothing to do with them being gone. It was all about me. All about the overwhelming sadness of the medical insanity in MY life. They still felt bad. My kids always feel so bad and sad for what we are going through. The timing of this was truly amazing. We met, we ate, we laughed, my spirits again were renewed. Timing… wow…
I am alone in MY journey. I am alone within Myself, about myself. Has nothing to do with others. My life is full of amazing, wonderful, loving, caring people. I have so many, so much in my life. I am so lucky on so many levels! Can you believe this timing?!
That was Sunday.
Monday is Dex Steroid day. My day of fake feeling good. Of not feeling sick or in bone pain. Of things sunshine and renewed spirits. I feel like me again…
The kids and I go out Monday night for my daughter’s boyfriend’s birthday. We laugh a lot. I’m their crazy, steroided, dexified, hilarious mom. We laugh! I’m feeling like me again. Free of pain. Not nauseated. Free of illness. Free of sadness. Free, for a day… Temporarily, this is me again.
The me before illness took over our lives.
I am not Alone. I am not Lonely. I am a Very Lucky Lady!